A lot of us will crave for the kind of sex life that is portrayed on the big screen. We want to be in a fancy bedroom with rose petals and lighted candles everywhere.

We want to be in an effortless kind of chemistry with our partners where there are no speed bumps or awkward moments. However, real life is rarely ever like that. It almost never happens. A lot of times, sex can be very underwhelming especially if you’ve been hyping it up in you head for the longest time now

1. YOU FAKE YOUR ORGASMS.

If you fake your orgasms, then you are essentially lying to your partner about what you like in the bedroom. And if you keep on doing that, you are misleading them into thinking that they’re doing what they need you to do. If you didn’t climax, then just be honest about it. Let your partner know what they could have done to help you get there.

2. YOU TALK TOO MUCH DURING SE3.

It can be a good thing to be a little talkative during sex – for instance, when you’re role playing or when you’re talking dirty to one another. But it can also get a little annoying really quickly. So don’t overdo it. Make sure that you’re keeping the talking at the bare minimum. You don’t want to be messing the chemistry up by constantly talking with your partner

3. YOU LOSE FOCUS AND YOU START TO THINK ABOUT OTHER THINGS IN THE MIDDLE OF SE3.

Always be mindful of the present moment that you’re in. It would be stupid for you to be thinking about other things in the middle of sex because you are depriving yourself of the full sensation of the moment. And your partner won’t be too happy about it either.

4. YOU LET YOUR PARTNER TAKE THE LEAD ALL OF THE TIME.

Take control. Call the shots. Take the lead. Sometimes, you can take a lot of pressure off your partner if you act as the dominant one in the bedroom.

5. YOU PRACTICE POOR HYGIENE.

Wash yourself. Take a bath. Your partner isn’t going to want to kiss you on the neck if you smell bad. Your partner isn’t going to want to make out with you if you have bad breath. Your partner isn’t going to want to go down on you if you haven’t bathed in a while. Practice proper hygiene. It helps in the bedroom.